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OUR LADY OF MISANDRY

This is a blog intended to provide support to all in harms way of the Patriarchy and defense from MRAs. Our Lady of Misandry may be called upon at all times when the burden of dudebros, blatant misogynists, sexists and the like seems too overwhelming to bear. If anyone however wishes to contribute to the meme, you can find it on quickmeme. This is a trans* and other GSMs inclusive blog and that goes for the meme as well.
Sep 24 '13

janetmock:

Wow! The cover of my book Redefining Realness, available for pre-order now. Here’s 7 easy ways you can support my baby!

1. Pre-order your copy on AmazonB&N or iBooks. Pre-order sales are vital to a first-time author like me. It shows my publisher and major booksellers that there are readers who believe in Redefining Realness (the first popular press-backed books about the experiences of a young trans woman of color) and its empowering message of authenticity, self-determination and love.

2. One of my all-time favorite gifts is a good story. Recommend Redefining Realness and/or pre-order a copy of the book for someone you know will read it and love it. Storysharing is the gift the continues to give.

3. Post this photo OR this photo on Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr or Facebook using the hashtag#RedefiningRealness and the URL http://janetmock.com/books.

4. Share one of the following sample messages on Twitter or Facebook using the hashtag #RedefiningRealness:

5. If you’re a journalist, vlogger, blogger, podcaster, writer or media maker, feature the book. I can be contacted at contact@janetmock.com for a quote or interview.

6. If you’re an educator, a campus leader or event organizer, invite me to speak at your campus or event. I can do a talk, read from my book and sign copies for readers, and will be traveling intensely in 2014 for my book/speaking tour. I can be contacted at speaking@janetmock.com for details.

7. If you have the capacity, purchase bulk orders for your class or group. My publisher can offer a great discount. Email contact@janetmock.com for details.

Sep 23 '13

(Source: hipocampo)

Sep 23 '13
Sep 23 '13

adamnrayofsunshine:

Here’s a fun exercise: swap out the term “political correctness” for “empathy.”

Empathy is a form of censorship.”

Empathy is ruining this country.”

"I don’t care about being empathetic.”

Reeeeeeally puts a different spin on things.

Sep 23 '13

Britney spreading the true since 1992

Sep 23 '13
thatqueerchick:

EVERYONE gets niqab and burka the wrong way round in the West. And when it’s large media organisations, it’s really inexcusable.

thatqueerchick:

EVERYONE gets niqab and burka the wrong way round in the West. And when it’s large media organisations, it’s really inexcusable.

(Source: fuckyeahwomenprotesting)

Sep 23 '13
soultired:

teaandtheatre:

d-ogtooth:

teaandtheatre:

ataleforapenny:

teaandtheatre:

They also frequently speak over us.

could someone please explain this to me? i’ve never seen anything like this before and i really don’t know where i would look to research it myself… it’s certainly troubling .-.;

Explain what, exactly?

What ableism have you experienced? I’m sorry that it’s happened, no one should pull this shit, especially not feminists. It’s horseshit.

From feminists explicitly or in real life….? 
Well, the vast majority of feminists (especially Tumblr’s Popular SJ Feminist circle) pretty much dismiss ableism entirely. They will make jokes (“ableism is so lame”, “God, know your privilege because not everyone can sign their name”, etc (yes, these are real examples)), and when someone confronts their ableist language or erasure of PWD, they will either ignore you, delete your ask, or straight up say that ableism isn’t real. On top of this, the ones who DO admit it’s real often ignore any sort of intersectionality — they claim that it’s not an “important” issue, or that it’s nothing more than being PC (to not use ableist language). Oftentimes, it’s as simple as “Please don’t use the r word, since PWD are constantly subject to being called as such”, only to be told that we need to stop being so PC and sensitive and suck it up because women have it worse than PWD (again, ignoring any and all intersectionality). Even more often is speaking above or for PWD instead of with them, often saying, “Well, if I was disabled, I wouldn’t be doing what you’re saying….” or “Well, my PWD cousin said THIS….”, etc. Furthermore, I’ve seen cases where my view is instantly dismissed BECAUSE of my disability(ies), such as, “Well, no offense, but because you’re autistic, you couldn’t POSSIBLY know what’s going on in terms of this social situation, so your view is invalid….” or “Well, just because YOU’RE Deaf doesn’t mean that any other Deaf person sees it that way!” etc. And it’s exhausting, because feminists often claim to be for equal rights for all, yet completely and utterly ignore any PWD while furthering the ableist attitude of society.

Man, I’m a feminist and I can kick in some ableist shit feminists pull, too.
Calling sexists/bigots r*tards*
Calling sexists/bigots crazy or saying that mental illness leads to prejudiced thinking and oppressive behavior*
Saying that the developmentally disabled can’t consent to sex
Saying that mentally ill people shouldn’t get into relationships
Saying that domestic abusive is the result of mental illness*
Ignoring that disabled people have an increased risk of being abused, particularly sexually abused and raped (and this ties into the whole can’t consent to sex thing, since some feminists seem to think any sex with a developmentally disabled person should be considered rape)
“We shouldn’t have to say that contraception is also medication to demand it be covered as health care.”  Fuck all we shouldn’t, both are equally valid and denying that some women use the pill exclusively to deal with illness just erases how disability intersects with the debate
“Calling something bad crazy isn’t like calling it gay” (Paraphrasing an almost direct quote)
If a mentally ill person (particularly a man) ever does something bad to a woman, it’s pretty much always attributed to their illness*
Fatphobic ableism that doesn’t consider that some people are overweight, or don’t exercise, or don’t eat well, because of their disabilities (not that it’s ever okay to judge someone’s health or fatness, just another point of intersectionality)
Using mental illness/disability as a metaphor for what it’s like to be a woman
And this is just a tiny list of what I could come up with if I wanted to keep writing.  Feminists, like everybody else, can be wildly ableist. 
*These starred ones?  They actually undo some of the feminist arguments, by alleviating some of the blame that should be put on the abuser and putting it on the disability, instead.  But mental illness doesn’t make anyone abusive, being abusive fucking does. 

See, this is what I’m talking about when I say I’ll accept sensible, valid criticisms of feminism. And this one is definitely important to acknowledge.

soultired:

teaandtheatre:

d-ogtooth:

teaandtheatre:

ataleforapenny:

teaandtheatre:

They also frequently speak over us.

could someone please explain this to me? i’ve never seen anything like this before and i really don’t know where i would look to research it myself… it’s certainly troubling .-.;

Explain what, exactly?

What ableism have you experienced? I’m sorry that it’s happened, no one should pull this shit, especially not feminists. It’s horseshit.

From feminists explicitly or in real life….? 

Well, the vast majority of feminists (especially Tumblr’s Popular SJ Feminist circle) pretty much dismiss ableism entirely. They will make jokes (“ableism is so lame”, “God, know your privilege because not everyone can sign their name”, etc (yes, these are real examples)), and when someone confronts their ableist language or erasure of PWD, they will either ignore you, delete your ask, or straight up say that ableism isn’t real. On top of this, the ones who DO admit it’s real often ignore any sort of intersectionality — they claim that it’s not an “important” issue, or that it’s nothing more than being PC (to not use ableist language). Oftentimes, it’s as simple as “Please don’t use the r word, since PWD are constantly subject to being called as such”, only to be told that we need to stop being so PC and sensitive and suck it up because women have it worse than PWD (again, ignoring any and all intersectionality). Even more often is speaking above or for PWD instead of with them, often saying, “Well, if was disabled, I wouldn’t be doing what you’re saying….” or “Well, my PWD cousin said THIS….”, etc. Furthermore, I’ve seen cases where my view is instantly dismissed BECAUSE of my disability(ies), such as, “Well, no offense, but because you’re autistic, you couldn’t POSSIBLY know what’s going on in terms of this social situation, so your view is invalid….” or “Well, just because YOU’RE Deaf doesn’t mean that any other Deaf person sees it that way!” etc. And it’s exhausting, because feminists often claim to be for equal rights for all, yet completely and utterly ignore any PWD while furthering the ableist attitude of society.

Man, I’m a feminist and I can kick in some ableist shit feminists pull, too.

  • Calling sexists/bigots r*tards*
  • Calling sexists/bigots crazy or saying that mental illness leads to prejudiced thinking and oppressive behavior*
  • Saying that the developmentally disabled can’t consent to sex
  • Saying that mentally ill people shouldn’t get into relationships
  • Saying that domestic abusive is the result of mental illness*
  • Ignoring that disabled people have an increased risk of being abused, particularly sexually abused and raped (and this ties into the whole can’t consent to sex thing, since some feminists seem to think any sex with a developmentally disabled person should be considered rape)
  • “We shouldn’t have to say that contraception is also medication to demand it be covered as health care.”  Fuck all we shouldn’t, both are equally valid and denying that some women use the pill exclusively to deal with illness just erases how disability intersects with the debate
  • “Calling something bad crazy isn’t like calling it gay” (Paraphrasing an almost direct quote)
  • If a mentally ill person (particularly a man) ever does something bad to a woman, it’s pretty much always attributed to their illness*
  • Fatphobic ableism that doesn’t consider that some people are overweight, or don’t exercise, or don’t eat well, because of their disabilities (not that it’s ever okay to judge someone’s health or fatness, just another point of intersectionality)
  • Using mental illness/disability as a metaphor for what it’s like to be a woman

And this is just a tiny list of what I could come up with if I wanted to keep writing.  Feminists, like everybody else, can be wildly ableist. 

*These starred ones?  They actually undo some of the feminist arguments, by alleviating some of the blame that should be put on the abuser and putting it on the disability, instead.  But mental illness doesn’t make anyone abusive, being abusive fucking does. 

See, this is what I’m talking about when I say I’ll accept sensible, valid criticisms of feminism. And this one is definitely important to acknowledge.

(Source: what-the-2028)

Sep 23 '13

sheiswolf:

It’s real funny [except not funny at all] how the way to devalue, dehumanize and gaslight women is to say they have Daddy Issues

Daddy Issues became a well known thing because men have become known for abusing and leaving their children

And yet, somehow that’s a reflection on the daughter and not men

But Feminists make up sexism right?

Sep 23 '13

eatyourpaisley:

there are legitimately men out there who think that by saying “don’t objectify women” we are saying “you are not allowed to find women attractive”

these guys actually cannot see a difference

Sep 23 '13

kentmcfuller:

do not fix your dark circles let the world know youre tired of its shit and ready to kill a man

Sep 23 '13
Sep 22 '13
dovahkiitty69:

That’s not what feminism is about you fucking weiner

dovahkiitty69:

That’s not what feminism is about you fucking weiner

Sep 22 '13

No more.

(Source: meryylstreep)

Sep 22 '13

divalocity:

Obabiyi Aishah Ajibola of Nigeria is crowned World Muslimah 2013. 

(Source: tagesanzeiger.ch)

Sep 22 '13

tweezing:

fuck those social experiment type things where people in privileged situations *dress up* as marginalised groups in order to ~experience oppression~

like that girl who wore the hijab, and that video that switched around straight people and gay people’s positions in society, and now this latest video where a male actor dresses up as a woman to experience sexual harassment

fuck them because you could just ask oppressed people about their experiences and let their voices be heard instead of interjecting yourself into the situation and silencing them over again